It is hard to find someone who makes it without sex beyond the 3rd date let alone until they are married. I know some who want to save themselves for that special love, but very few ever make it. Society has changed and what was considered sacred years ago does not carry the same meaning today. Well, that's my two cents.
I hear ya. There was a time when I wanted to wait until I was married. I also thought that was what my ex fiance wanted to. However, he just about flipped out on me saying, "I'm sick and tired of waiting!" And called me names other times.
Now, almost 10 years later I went to the opposite extreme. I just got sick and tired of telling men no. I was also afraid of being alone and being a 30 or 40 year old virgin. Nowadays, it's almost as if it's enough to even find a guy who wants to stay with me let alone wait until marriage.
The one thing I regret though is how my first time happened. I was upset because of the fact that my ex fiance was pressuring me to have sex. I broke up with him, but then later I was devastated and ended up with someone I didn't even love.
There is so much irony in that, because the guy I gave my virginity to asked me four times before he finally gave in. I was just as tired of waiting as well. Still, I was so worn thin from the lack of respect that my ex fiance had that when he and I broke up I just didn't care anymore.
Then, when my ex fiance and me got back together at first he didn't take it hard. Then, he later ended up with a new girlfriend and then got married to her four months after the last time we broke up. I felt bad, but part of the reason I ever had sex in the first place was from feeling pressured and being tired of being alone just because guys wanted sex from me and I didn't want to give it.
